‘Just Be Yourself’ might be the most cliche advice of all time, but there’s so many people still not doing it. Myself included.
For me, this advice means: be shameless about who you are and what you love.
Don’t worry about what other people think.
One of my deepest passions is writing about dating and relationships. I blog for several popular websites and wrote a book about it last year.
Some of you might not have known this about me. Deep down, that’s what I wanted.
Why I barely mention my book
As proud as I am about The Thrill Of The Chase, I was terrified throughout the entire marketing process.
It’s barely normal for a dude to write about dating or publicly show any sort of vulnerability.
And boy, does does this book show vulnerability…
It goes deep into detail about my worst ever break-up, and how it wrecked my life for at least a year. It explains the unorthodox things I did to get better with women. It even mentions sex (OMG, what a taboo, right?).
This vulnerability made me scared to tell certain people about the book, which is why it hasn’t sold as well as I would have liked.
The irony is that it’s the vulnerability that much is it such a good book! Writing what scares you is how to create your best work.
By not marketing the book fully, I’ve essentially wasted the time I spent writing it. Even worse, I’ve deprived people, who may be in the same position I was, of a story that could change their lives.
The issue goes further than that too…
When people ask about my job, I tell them I’m a freelance writer, mostly covering men’s topics including health and fitness, dating and relationships, finance, travel…
But I’ll always say the dating and relationships part faster, and will occasionally throw other topics I don’t even cover to hide it even further.
Why do I do that???
Deep inside, I believe that travelling the world writing books and articles about dating really is the dream lifestyle. It’s time to start acting like it.
So, here’s my question to you…
Do you have a piece of art or a hobby that a bit out of the ordinary? If so, do you scream about it from the rooftops or try and hide it?
Passion is one of the most attractive personality traits a person can show. Being embarrassed about who you are is one of the worst.
So, I beg you: please be proud of who you are. It’s scary, but your life will be so much better for it.